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Sep. 19th, 2009 09:20 pm
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Let's dfeclare it Open Season on a trans kid just because we don't like their mother!

http://community.livejournal.com/parent_drama/179478.html


Fucking evil harpies the lot of them. 

Very angry now, very angry indeed.

Date: 2009-09-19 08:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] curious-soupz.livejournal.com
That be the nature of Live Journal. That actually reminds me of the days of middle america people on message boards spelling badly and loving the good lord.

Date: 2009-09-19 09:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
Aye. I know I've been around these here internets long enough to have seen it everything, but my rage button has been well and truly pressed tonight. Oh how I wish I could unleash my inner mackem on them all!

Date: 2009-09-19 10:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] curious-soupz.livejournal.com
Whoooaaaa! NO ONE deserves an inner mackem going feral upon them.

Date: 2009-09-21 08:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
You're possibly right. I should wear some type of badge saying "WARNING - Inner Mackem" so that people can only engage with me with the full understanding that they may end up maimed. It's only fair. YA BASTAD!

Date: 2009-09-19 09:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blubeagle.livejournal.com
Wow...just WOW.

*shakes head in shame, anger and frustration*

Date: 2009-09-19 09:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
I know. The LJ Mommy Brigade have been bringing forth my ire in full force this week. From the mother of a disabled kid who believes that wheelchair users can "Get up and walk to a different seat" if she's sat in the wheelchair space on a bus or train and can't be bothered to move her shopping, to this bunch of narrowminded fools.

The first one especially annoyed me. She's all over LJ screaming down anyone who comments about non-neurotypical kids (hers has an autism-like disorder), but apparently the physically disabled can go and fuck themselves. She claims strollers/pushchairs are far more important than wheelchairs or scooters, and that she's never, ever seen a real disabled person on the bus, so they don't exist, and if they're that disabled they should stay at home and not bother the nice 'normal' people.

Date: 2009-09-19 09:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blubeagle.livejournal.com
Oh for fuck's sake! Some people's children!

Yeah, a wheelchair is a non-legitimate disability.

(How are YOU feeling, sweetie? And your lady?)

Date: 2009-09-19 10:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
She went back to work this week, which is brilliant and bad. Luckily they didn't get to sack her, due to a loophole in the paperwork. She keeps everything, because her pernicious anaemia means if it's not written and filed it might as well not exist. They were all ready to give her the boot on the grounds that she'd reached Stage 3 of the sickness protocol, but when she signed the new contract back in April of this year it meant everyone with sick was put back to a stage 1, meaning this took her up to a 2. They denied this, but fortunately she had a signed, letterheaded statement from her former team leader, muhahah. So she's allowed to stay, and has done 4 hours a day this week, doing 6 a day next week, then back to the regular 8 hours after that.

But after 9 weeks of just hanging out together I'm having withdrawal symptoms from her, she's hating work as if she was never away, and life is back to whatever 'normal' passes for in this house!

How are you guys doing?

Date: 2009-09-19 10:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blubeagle.livejournal.com
I'm recuperating from a UTI that had gotten into my bloodstream and made me VERY ill. I was in the hospital for a week. Frog is doing well. Busy with work.

I'm glad that your sweetie went back to work. That has to be nice for her, but I also understand the frustrations you've been going through. A few years ago, Frog and I went through something similar.

If my husband isn't in bed at night, I can't sleep. It's well documented. :+)

It's good to hear from you again. I was very worried for a long time.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
Oh no! *massssive hugs* and now? You feeling better? That's what happened to me last year. Actually a couple of days after Lisa escaped from hospital I started to feel really horrid. I had a feeling it might be a UTI and took a sample, the nurse dipped it, said there was nothing there but as it was me she'd send it to the lab. I got a phone call asking if I'd dropped the bottle down the toilet because it was teeming with bacteria. WAH! That's why I've been so quiet. At one point we were both sleeping about 20 hours a day, literally setting the alarm to wake up and take pills, give each other a kiss, then collapse again! We even ended up with the rabbits in the bed, watching us.


Are you like me in that you don't actually feel it until it's at an absolutely critical state? I'm asking for a referral to a urologist because quite frankly it's not good to not be able to tell when something that bad is happening internally.

Mooooore hugs for my lovely Beagle! :D

Date: 2009-09-19 09:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] refusion.livejournal.com
Your comments are awesome.

Oh, and what a surprise, [livejournal.com profile] bad_mom replied to that post.

Date: 2009-09-19 09:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
Ta! Bunch of muppety cockwombles, the lot of them. I thought my blood pressure was high enough after coming back from my hiatus and reading weeks worth of shite from people who should know better, or at least be savvy enough to shut the fuck up. But no, apparently the Good Lord wants me to stroke out.

I wish I could bloody drink, I'd kill for some vodka.

Date: 2009-09-19 10:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] watersaredeep.livejournal.com
Thank you for the awesome comments. It really is all about mocking the mom via her kid.

Date: 2009-09-19 10:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
Vile isn't it? I'm not usually one to get that worked up over internet stuff, but this has got me fuming. Couldn't even eat my dinner tonight, and that's really saying something!

Date: 2009-09-19 10:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] watersaredeep.livejournal.com
I would have expected stuff like that from a few fundie forums I read, but the mommy brigades terrify me and I'm really thankful I didn't have to raise kids with them. There was a time when parents supported one another. :/

Welcome back, btw. I had almost PM'd you because I hadn't seen you around and was hoping all was well with the both of you.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
Mommies are scary. I'm going to stick with being the cool gay Auntie that has all the shiny gadgets and knows the words to the Timmy Time song!

We were lucky enough (hahahah) for me to get another stealth kidney infection just after Lisa escaped from hospital. My GP is very alarmed that I seem to have no idea that anything's going on until I'm virtually dead. Even then I just think "Hmmm. My wee smells a bit odd", and find out that's because it's almost entirely made of bacteria and pus. Disgusting. I got some brilliant new painkillers though, orange ones that make my top lip feel like it's vibrating although I'm assured that's all in my mind!

So, we basically spent two months in bed sleeping off our various woes for 20 hours at a time. Lisa had developed a food phobia so we weren't eating either, which was actually quite convenient, it makes for a very cheap lifestyle heheh.

Date: 2009-09-19 10:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] hotclaws.livejournal.com
That was a bit of a feeding frenzy.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
Indeed. Who'd have thought people could get so vicious about what a little child wants?

Date: 2009-09-19 10:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] madwitch.livejournal.com
Well, aren't they just lovely.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
I thought my mother was bad, I really did. But these whackjobs? Jeepers. Makes Mother Toad look like a normal human with feelings and maternal instinct and stuff. I've never been happier to have been raised by a Born Again Christian Cliff Richard fan!

Date: 2009-09-20 04:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pickleboot.livejournal.com
i read that and fumed. i have a lj friend who is having trouble with her daughter who is having gender identity issues in the sf area. and then that? if it was anyone but lizzey they would be falling all over her being supportive.

hell, my tg friends knew at 3 they were in the wrong bodies. so i think that the whole comm is just picking on her and not reading the links she was so kindly given. ugh. just because she is known for drama mongering(and she is, unfortunately) she is dismissed offhand instead of taken seriously.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
It's crazy stuff. I notice none of them replied to my question about whether they didn't know what gender they were until they were 18. Cowards. I clearly remember being about 4 and just knowing something was 'different' about me, something I could never articulate, and that was a concept as nebulous as something can be to a little kid. Gender identity is even more clear-cut than that, and I hate when people dismiss children out of hand because of some pathetic idea that they're just little stupid humanoid dogs or something.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pickleboot.livejournal.com
yep. and because it is [livejournal.com profile] lizzey of course she is drama mongering. which sucks. at least she is paying attention to what her daughter, not her son, as so many of those snarky know nothing bitches ( a word i hate to use, btw) insist she call her child, wants and feels she is. if more parents paid attention to gender identity earlier in life, transition would be so much easier. hell, i went to a university where so many people in transition went because it was a safe haven and there were programs set up for counseling and to account for reassignment surgery and missed classes and all that- it was a wonderful thing. be tween that and the safe haven laws- no discrimination allowed in hiring based on gender, sexual orientation, creed, or ethnicity it was a pretty amazing place to live. it was one of the few places where in the late 70's/early 80's we had openly gay school teachers, poc school principals(and not just in areas that were largely black, but in the more affluent areas, mostly, which was not the norm in that area), and so much more. i grew up thinking that inter-racial relationships were the norm, and that seeing gay and lesbian couples out and about holding hands and showing affection was just how it was. it wasn't until i was much older- well into my teens- that i found out that we really live in such a different place. and that not everyone was so happy about how things are there. truth be told, i miss the diversity there, and i miss the diversity of minneapolis. i hate that my kids are growing up in a rural suburb, one that while it does have an active glbt group, is small. my kids, especially zane, are impressionable, and we really stress to them that no all coupes are men and women, and that people can be born into the wrong bodies, but once zane talked about his auntie doug in class and got the whole homosexuality is a sin in the eyes of god talk from a classmate and the teacher did nothing to stop it because it turned out she believed it, too. nice separation of church and state there. good thing he did not mention his aunt claire or his other aunt claire, the transsexuals, or he really would have gotten an ear full! the thing is, they just don't care- they are kids. they know lots of mom and dad's friends are gay and lesbian couples, quite a few are mtf, a few are ftm tg, and that one special one was miss gay illinois 3 years running.(she is rei's favorite auntie- when we go visit champaign, she lets rei try on wigs and wear the crowns and puts make up on her and all that great stuff. i swear she is going to make that kid into a worse diva than she already is.)

the thing is, lj mommies eat their own, and if it is one that has done something to cause drama in the past, a real concern can't be real. i applaud lizzey for taking this seriously. i really do. because if she didn't that poor kid could be in for years of hell. one of the claires waited until her late 20's to transition, the other started in her late teens. the one who transitioned in her late 20's has horrible issues with depression, while the one who started the transition in her teens is actually doing really well. it's sad to me to see the difference in the two- there was lack of family support in the first case and tremendous family support in the other, and that made all the difference.

Date: 2009-09-20 02:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bunnsidhe.livejournal.com
What a bunch of bitches. It's all because it's Lizziey. And I think it's really sad that the OP apparently checks Lizziey's profile for updates to gossip about.

And thisiska (or whatever the name is) said six was too young to know you're the wrong gender. No, it isn't. She's another one who needs to learn a bit before posting.

Date: 2009-09-21 09:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paraxeni.livejournal.com
I know! Like I said above, I notice she dodged my "Did you always know you were a girl, or did you have to wait until you were 18?" questioning. And then to turn round and say that I must be a bitter trans* person because apparently only one of 'them' could possibly care about a child being made the subject of disgusting gossip. Nnnnnngh. The rage was spilling over, I had to just get away from the laptop for my own good because I was seething. I had some bunny time instead. There's nothing like a fat, disapproving fuzzball to remind you what's important. Yes that's right, a full food bowl and some cabbage!

Date: 2009-10-08 12:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tokio.livejournal.com
I know this is old, but I decided to check out your journal and I've gotta say, I love you for this, bb.
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