Ah, a compromise
Dec. 18th, 2009 12:30 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I've written and canned three posts today because of the uncontrollable grudgey rage, so I'm gonna get it out via clumsy analogies for now.
I am a disabled woman. I haven't always been that way, but I am now. Would you ever ask me to give up Wheelson, or ditch the assistive tech. I use, just because I once had the privilege of being able-bodied?
I was born gay, but didn't come out until 1999. Therefore I benefitted from the privilege of appearing to be heterosexual, even though I wasn't. Even now, unless I'm snogging Miss Buttons in front of you and singing 'Glad to be Gay'' then I 'pass'. Am I less of a lesbian for any of that? Do you have the right to call me bisexual or heterosexual because I've kissed boys in my dim, distant past?
You're thinking "Shit, is Burt on crack? Has she overdone the fizzy pop and painkillers? None of this makes sense" You're right, it doesn't. But today I've seen people, people I thought were rational and sensible, ungendering a trans woman, calling her 'It' and 'Him' because she expressed views they don't agree with. Why is this ok? Because "OMG TRANS WOMEN HAVE MALE PRIVILEGE". Really? That'll be why they're raped, and killed, and denied healthcare then, 'cos of their powerful links to the patriarchy. That'll be why they're overwhelmingly poor, unemployed, homeless, marginalised, decimated by HIV/AIDS, because they are DA MAAAAAN. And as we all know, penis=power. YEah, they'll let you call yourself a woman, but put a foot wrong and BOOM, you're an It-girl, and not the Paris Hylton type. Ahem. Sorry for the spillage, I'll clean up later.
Oh and
refusion ? Snowflakes are tiny litle things, but that one I noticed yesterday may have actually saved my sanity and dragged me back to the real world. Many smooches.
I am a disabled woman. I haven't always been that way, but I am now. Would you ever ask me to give up Wheelson, or ditch the assistive tech. I use, just because I once had the privilege of being able-bodied?
I was born gay, but didn't come out until 1999. Therefore I benefitted from the privilege of appearing to be heterosexual, even though I wasn't. Even now, unless I'm snogging Miss Buttons in front of you and singing 'Glad to be Gay'' then I 'pass'. Am I less of a lesbian for any of that? Do you have the right to call me bisexual or heterosexual because I've kissed boys in my dim, distant past?
You're thinking "Shit, is Burt on crack? Has she overdone the fizzy pop and painkillers? None of this makes sense" You're right, it doesn't. But today I've seen people, people I thought were rational and sensible, ungendering a trans woman, calling her 'It' and 'Him' because she expressed views they don't agree with. Why is this ok? Because "OMG TRANS WOMEN HAVE MALE PRIVILEGE". Really? That'll be why they're raped, and killed, and denied healthcare then, 'cos of their powerful links to the patriarchy. That'll be why they're overwhelmingly poor, unemployed, homeless, marginalised, decimated by HIV/AIDS, because they are DA MAAAAAN. And as we all know, penis=power. YEah, they'll let you call yourself a woman, but put a foot wrong and BOOM, you're an It-girl, and not the Paris Hylton type. Ahem. Sorry for the spillage, I'll clean up later.
Oh and
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Date: 2009-12-18 12:49 am (UTC)I wanted to spit on the people who were saying that dark elf girl "sounded male", then clearly her reasons for transitioning were wrong and invalid. I mean, REALLY? I get mistaken for a guy online an awful lot; am I not a woman now? Oh wait, no one would even think about saying that to me, because I was FAAB. Of course I'm a woman, unless of course I'm FTM, in which case... of course I'm a woman. But MAAB? Nope, no matter what you do, you're a man and totes have male privilege, regardless of your gender identity, and urghhhhhhhh stab stab stab stab.
Also side note, the person who posted that stupid? She has previously argued that it's okay for her women's college to allow trans men to attend despite living as men, because of course they can't afford to attend any other good schools, while refusing to discuss how bullshit it is that her school won't allow trans women to enroll at all.
I swear to god, most of the people on this planet can't be happy unless they're pissing on at least a subset of women at all times.
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Date: 2009-12-18 04:06 am (UTC)As it turns out, some people would say "yes." Possibly the same people who are the problem in a lot of trans discussions, come to think of it.
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